7 surefire steps to improve your personality

So you want to improve your personality. Well, you may find some sueful tips on this article. First lets understand it before we will see the ways to improve it.

According to wikipedia (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Personality_development), personality is combination of one's thinking pattern, his behaviour and his feelings that distiguish one from others. The following list will help you to improve your personality for sure if you pay you your attention to each of them.

1. Self awareness & confident:

First I want to explain why self awareness and confidence has come together instead of separate points. Self awareness means knowing your full potential. When you know your full potential, confidence will come naturally. A person with full of natural confidence will surely have the personality and charisma to attract others. Makes sense?
2. Smile please!

A person with smile is more likely to going to attract others. Keeping you smiling is toughest thing to do as it requires your awareness a lot.
3. Body language

Body language is the only language that expose your personality to subconscious mind of others. It is hard to improve it artificially. Self awareness is the natural way to improve your body language. A short term way to improve your body language is keeping your back straight and deep conscious breathing.

4. Speak slowly & clearly

Speaking slowly and clearly is another short way improve confidence so to improve your personality. Listen to others and then express your thoughts slowly which will give you more time. Be aware of your tone and voice, keep it as much clear as possible. It will improve your confidence so does your personality.
5. Be yourself:

You are here to enjoy your life not to act to get certified by others. They are fighting with their own problems always and don't have time to judge your life. It is your duty to take care of your life. Be yourself! Don't act! Don't invite others to judge you.

5. Walk fast:

Walking fast will also help you to improve your personality. It is good habit to have and will never harm you.
6. Dress neatly:

Dress neatly! Choose clothes which will make you feel comfortable and confidence.
7. Help Others

Helping others is wonderful way to help yourself. It will improve your personality naturally. 

Why shouldn't you believe?

Definition for "Believe": to have confidence in the truth, the existence, or the reliability of something, although without absolute proof that one is right in doing so:

Personally, I hate the word "Believe". Who will believe a thing (s)he doesn't know fully? An uneducated person? Who doesn't have time to think and analyse about it deeply? But you don't have to believe anything. Stop believing! start analyzing! ASk lot of questions!

If someone says your power is unlimited, start analysing it. Don't just believe because you need some advice!  Try to understand if there is any logic behind it!
Try meditation! Read some good(?) books! Analyze without any beliefs! Do it with empty mind! Be open to truth!  Enjoy your life!

How to create a team working for your success

1. Be natural
2. Love yourself
3. Love everybody in your team
4. Read a lot
5. Plan your time well. Plan every month, every week, every day and every hour.
6. Review how did your plans go every week and every month
7. Love/enjoy whatever you do and give your 100%. Teach/Coach the same technique to your team

That's it! No shortcuts!

How to Overcome Fear

Fear is nothing but your feeling about something you don't want to happen. Who can overcome fear? Definitely, you can. That's why you reached this page. Don't stop your search. Read more. Analyze all. Then come to a conclusion.

Let me explain my experience. I was a person who was afraid of being alone at home. I was forced to be alone at home for 5 months. It gave me different experience. First day, I was trying to escape from that situation by searching one of my friend's room to stay there, because I knew there were more than two people and they won't allow me to hurt. I hope they would protect me from if anything bad could happen to me. Unfortunately, my first effort to avoid being alone ended in a failure as my friend went to visit his parents at countryside.

I had no option but to stay alone. My first day was terrible. I felt as something bad was going to happen to me. I was covered myself with bed sheet and closed my eyes tightly. The sound were started to become louder and louder and I was praying god to save me from that bad thing. I don't remember how did I sleep and I saw the next morning. Believe me. I couldn't believe that I was still in this world. The next day was not so bad but it was also a such a bad experience. But my third day was better as I had started to believe I was going to see the next day. Fourth day, I forgot the first day and also forgot I was alone. Now, I am writing this article at my home alone and my doors are opened.

Yes, Fear is nothing but your feeling about something you don't want to happen. If you experience it once, it started to lose its strength and you will start to become stronger.

I don't want to confuse by giving several ways to overcome fear. One simple way I would suggest is putting yourself into unknown situations. If you start practicing this, You will definitely started to notice your fears disappearing. Please try and let me know your opinions.

Using your dream and imagination for success in everything

Dream and imagination is real easy way to success in everything. It worked for me lot of times. You too use this trick to succeed at everything in your life.

It is similar to setting goals. For me, goals should be used just to enjoy your talents rather than checking them. We, all people, are born with natural talents and skills. When I doubt any one of my skills, it become tougher than normally I am doing it. Isn’t it? You shouldn’t need to believe you have talents and skills. Just realize them. Once you realize your talents and skills, then you can enjoy achieving your dreams and goals.

First, you have to dream how you want to be after one year. Don’t care whether it is possible or not? Just imagine. Have a separate note and write your goal on it. Write the date you want to achieve it. Let’s name the book as Dream book.

Next step is the toughest one. Because whenever you have to start something, you need to give your full concentration and energy. Next one week is to spend with the analysis of the ways to achieve. Use your imagination. Strive to get as many ways to achieve it. Write them all in the dream book. Then, choose a right way which should match for your unique skills and talents. Write it on the dream book.

Now separate the book as follows:

1. First page should be used to write your dream. Second page should be used to write your skills and talents(+). Third page is for your weakness(-). Fourth page is for what are your weakness can be converted as your +. Fifth page is should be used to write the achievements in your way to your goals.

2. From sixth page, write the date of next Sunday. Dedicate every next page to each Sundays which will be useful to review and planning for every week. You can choose any day instead of Sunday, but it should be a holiday.

Choose a convenient time for you on Sunday to review the last week’s achievements and failures. Dream the next week’s goal. Make it as a challenging week by setting tougher goal. Do this every Sunday. Have a habit of reading the dream book everyday. Have a review at every month. The first six month would be tougher than the next.

Write the following in the first page of the dream book.
1. Don’t give up
2. Don’t procrastinate
3. I am going to enjoy every Sunday with my achievements

Bookmark this page and tell your success story after one year. You can contact me to share your achievements by clicking in the contact me button.

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You know, your life is collection of the moments you spend. As long as you hold the control over your thoughts, you are the owner of the moment. But, to be honest, you can't control your thoughts. But you need to take the ownership of your thoughts. How?

All you have to do is analyze your thought process. Identify the source of your thoughts. Understand them rather than controlling them. This is the secret of living in this moment. For detailed analysis click here.

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What is life?

Everybody has different opinion about life. It seems to be lots of different characteristics to life. But life remains same for all of us. Life is nothing but your present moment. Your life exists in your present.

Your present moment is wasted by your needless thoughts. Do you know the source of your thoughts? why are you thinking in particular way? Can't you think like Gandhi? Why?

How was yesterday?

When I ask this question, you should have some answer about the day. You may say it is great, not so good or not so bad...etc. But it all about your convenience with handling your thoughts.

When someone ready to face a difficult period means, he has the skills to handle such situations convenient. For you it is a great courage. But for him, it is just matter of handling the present moment with full of awareness.

If you learn the skill of handling the present moment, it means you are going to enjoy your life.

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Few questions to motivate you

Whenever I feel tired and in a situation to give up my self, the following questions helped me to motivate myself.

1. Who am I? Why am I here?

2. What is my goal? Why have I chose that goal? What happen after achieved it?

3. Am I using this body and mind to its best? How can I improve my skills to use them effectively?

4. How do I interact with people? Am I the person who is investing love everywhere?

5. How is my profession? is it interesting or boring? What is the relationship between interesting job and success? Am I ready to sacrifice my life for success ?

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Why shouldn't we judge others?

Every one of us has different character. We, almost everyone, have the habit of judging other people. Every one has different metrics to categorize other people. Those metrics are the main factors to decide others characters. They are given by external circumstances.

I had heard about a shocking story of an eight year old girl. She was kidnapped by two policemen, when she was returning from her school. She was molested and raped by them. How would you judge the policemen’s character? Definitely Bad, right?
There are lots of people like them whom we are facing in our every day life. Why shouldn’t we judge them?

Those people weren’t born with those characters. They were given these characters only from their circumstances. They don’t know how to give up those. I would say they need to be seen as people who are physically challenged. I wouldn’t recommend seeing those with mercy. But I would say they need to be seen with love. Why?

In that previous incident I explained, My opinion is both of them(that child and policemen) were suffered. Obviously the policemen were suffered by mental illness. As they are mentally in bad condition, hurting their mind wouldn’t help to cure their mental illness. Obviously we are responsible for the their behavior. What we are spreading? We are spreading competition… We are spreading Jealousy… Very few people of us are spreading love around the world… Be responsible for current world and others behavior. Stop hating others…. Love them all…

So, from now onwards, whenever you have to face a person with bad character, don’t hurt him. Do something to realize his character or mistake without hurting his heart. You can show angry to correct him. But you should be aware of the object of your angry that is for his goodness (like a mother’s angry)

Stop punishing others…. Love all… Spread love around you….





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Powerful mind: Throw your reactive mind away

A person, who can be hurt by others, is dangerous to the peaceful of this world. If you can not be hurt by external factors, you would not hurt anybody. Powerful mind is not an attacking mind; not a protective one; It is peaceful one.

How we are reacting to the situations comes from external factors? Whenever we are facing a new situation or new task, we have a habit of giving some judgment such as it is comfortable for us or not, good or bad… etc. That judgment is your reaction about that particular situation. How this judgment affects your mind?
If you think that situation is good, then your mind will be addicted to that external factor which causes that situation (Ex. Smoking, games, alcohol). Your level of addiction depends on how much you like the situation. Like that, if you think that situation is bad, then your mind will be hurt (financial crisis, periods of job searching…etc)

How can we stop the reactions?
Only solution to stop your reactions is realization. You should realize the judgments are made of your past experience. You should be aware while making that judgment. Is it possible to delay the judgment? If it is possible, then you can stop reacting to external factors. Then you will see the tough tasks ahead of you in new dimension.

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Open your mind

Who are you?
Every one has different answers for that question. Some would mention their name. Some would reply with their profession. Some would answer with their nationality. Every one of us is playing many rolls in our life.

Who are you? What are the rolls are you playing? Write down all your answers as many as possible. Strive to cover all the rolls you are playing.

Now start deleting your answers one by one. While deleting every answer, feel yourself as you are losing that identity. For example, you would be nameless after deleted your name. You would not be belonging to any religion after deleted your religion identity. Do the same for all of your answers. After deleted all those, you would not be belonging to any of your past identity.

Now sit silently for few minutes. See all the things around you as you are seeing that for the first time. See your house as new… See your Spouse, Parents and kids as some one else.

Now see yourself as someone else with eyes closed. See your thoughts. Don’t block it. Don’t justify it. Just see it…. While seeing your thoughts you may experience the silence. Silence is the most powerful meditation.

Try that and share your experiences with me. I hope that would be interesting tool to refresh and change your thoughts.




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Tips to Increase Your Creativity

1. Brainstorming:
It is a traditional method to generate large number of ideas. Write down all the ideas come from your mind as it is. Don’t reject your bad ideas. Be grateful for your mind for those ideas. One thing you need to remember is rejecting the bad ideas would kill your creativity.

2. Change your routine; Do something differently than your routine. Work in different places.

3. Learn something new:
Spend at least 15 minutes per day to learn something new such as learning a foreign language, new software...etc. Learning improves the efficiency of the right brain.

3. Take a walk for 30 minutes. Walk without your old thoughts. Don’t think about your worries. Just walk.

4. Laugh: Laughing helps you to relax your mind. It allows your ideas to flow.

5. Be curious about everything. Curiosity is the main factor for the creativity.

6. Don’t be afraid of rules; don’t be afraid to make mistakes.

7. Take a break sit in silence.

8. Remember your childhood days… Think yourself as a child… Be joyful. Play with children.

9. Understand your opinions about your creativity and break them all.

10. Sleep 7 hours a day.

11. Be humor: Humor helps you to be open for new ideas.

12. Try to cry….. and try to laugh while crying.

13. Imagine yourself as a popular person you know. Write something from their point and rewrite it from your view.

14. Dance for fun. Dance without rules.

15. Rearrange the things in your house and work place.



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How can you help this world to be peaceful as an individual

We know this world is now becoming difficult to live. As an individual how can you help to bring the peace? Are you aware of your responsibility for that? You can do something if you accept your responsibility. This page will guide you to do something what you can...

1. Spread the Love around you:
I hope you would accept that spreading Love is possible for you. Yes… Love is the only way to bring the peace. You should love the people around you. You know that Love is the most powerful tool than any other. So Love the people around you… whoever they are…. However they are…. Whatever they are… Love them. Don’t care about their character… Don’t worry about the image you have about them… just love them… Love all the creatures in this world unconditionally…
I am sure it will spread like the waves created when a flower is thrown into a pond. Be a first person to make that wave… Your love is the flower, throw it out everywhere. It will make a magic to your inner and outer world. So, please help this world to be beautiful by spreading the Love.

2. Spread the happiness:
Is it difficult to make the person next to you to be happy? No. You have the abilities to make others happy. You know the tricks. You only need the curiosity to spread it. You can make others happy by sharing a joke, sharing their worries and giving some solutions…etc. You can send jokes to others by SMS or email, to make them happy .
Share the happiness when you are happy… help others to be happy when you are not happy… It will make you happy. It will break your worries. It will make your family with full of happiness. It will spread to your friend then to his family. It will spread all over the world…. Be happy… Spread happy everywhere.

3. Help others:
Make a habit of helping others especially those around you. How can you help others? Plenty of ways to do that… The only thing you need is the desire of helping others.
Not only by finance, you can help them by some other ways such as providing food to poor people at least once in a year, sharing your knowledge with others to improve their skills, help them to get rid of their problem by giving different view to their problem ….etc. If you are a rich person, you can sponsor for poor students’ education.
So make a habit of spending at least 15 minutes per day for other. It will be helpful for you to spend the remaining 23.5 hours effectively. I am sure you will find this as great tool. But one condition you have to remember is there shouldn’t be any condition. Help others unconditionally.

4. Create a page like this:
1. If you are a blogger or own a website, you can create a page like this with our own ideas to make this world peaceful. If you don’t have such one, you can create blog to spread the love.
2. You can make a post about this blog so more people can read.
3. If you already have a post like this, please let me know through the contact form. So, I may choose to give a link to that post in my List of posts about Love.
4. You can email this post to your friends.





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Avoiding risk is very risky

Everyone wants to be safe in this world. Safe means securing from danger. But desire of safe is very risky. It makes you weak. Desire of safe is attribute of weakness. A deer should be more careful than a tiger. But a tiger need not to hide itself from a deer.

you think yourself as a deer. You are unaware of your inner power. You need not to be safe. The death is the safest place. But in life, risks are inevitable. If you choose to avoid taking risks, you are dead. But a person, who is not afraid of taking risks, is fearless in mind like a tiger. Do you want to be a deer or tiger?

Come out of your boundaries! Spread your wings! Enjoy this world!

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What else can make this world beautiful except love? Love all. Spread it everywhere.

Love only can bring the peace in this world. It is the only solution to stop the war. spread the love everywhere.

Keep your goals away from your happiness

Why we want to achieve big things? Why our mind always want to do something? Because we want to test our skills. We want show our talents to the world. Isn’t it? That is the base our goals for lots of us. We always want to show ourselves as what we are not currently.

A poor person want to become a rich man as he believes that richness would bring happiness to his life. Because he things that money is the only reason for his entire problem. He doesn’t know how to handle current struggle in his mind… So he thinks becoming rich person would bring the end for his problems. The ultimate base of our goal for lots of us is happiness. We want to be happy.

There is nothing wrong with having goals. But the base of our goals should not be happy. Why? What is wrong with having goals for happiness? The answer is “Nothing can make you happy”. You are the only administrator of you. But you gave the permission to some other external factors to control your mind. You can deny them anytime if you want.

Your happiness exists in this moment. You need not to postpone your happiness to future. Do you think that happiness will affect your progress on achieving your goals?Honestly, I don't think so.

Now, you may ask me, “What is best reason for having goals?” My answer is: It’s up to you. But it should not be for your happiness. You can live happily this life from this moment. There is no need to depend on something for your happiness. If you depend on external factors for your happiness, you are giving permission to those factors to affect your mind. Then you wouldn’t be an independence person to fix your life as your wish.

Conclusion:

Goals are good. But it shouldn’t be for your happiness. Be aware of the things which are resisting your happiness. Find the blocks and remove them to enable yourself for enjoying the life. Enjoy life from this very moment … Be happy for being you! Wishes to achieve your goals happily!





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